What is Anticipatory Grief?
Anticipatory grief is the response to the loss you expect to happen in the future. It is normal and natural when someone you love is facing a serious illness, decline or nearing end of life.
You might notice many emotions, such as sadness, worry, anger, guilt, relief or even numbness. Changes in thinking, like racing thoughts, trouble concentrating or planning for the future are common.
Physical reactions include tiredness, headaches, stomach issues, muscle tension or changes to sleep or appetite may develop. You may even find yourself experiencing relationship challenges, for example: feeling closer to some people and more distant from others. All of this is valid. There is no “right” way to feel and no set timeline for grief.
Meaningful Ways to Cope
There are several ways to help yourself or someone close to you cope with anticipatory grief.
Give yourself grace. This is a difficult journey. Be patient and gentle with yourself.
Talk About It. Share your feelings with someone you trust. You don’t have to hold it all inside.
Express Yourseif. Journaling, art, music, or prayer can help you process your emotions.
Find Moments of Peace. Deep breathing, meditation, spending time in nature, or quiet moments can bring comfort.
Create Meaningful Moments. Make memories, share stories, and focus on what matters most right now.
Accept Help. Let others support you. You don’t have to do this alone.
Where to find support
Talk to someone you trust, such as a friend, family member, spiritual leader, or someone who will listen
Support groups are excellent forums for connecting with others who understand, which can bring comfort and hope
Counseling or therapy with someone who specializes in grief and bereavement.
View our Calendar of Bereavement Groups and Workshops
It’s okay to take breaks, cry, laugh, rest and hope.